Plethos Discipleship - We are helping each family unit be a love and truth center
This week we are discussing the third ‘We are’ statement, “Helping each family unit be a love and truth center”. This is a profound truth to consider and we are privileged to do so tonight.
One morning I sat in my office and talked to an old friend of mine. He has been estranged from his son for as long as I have known him. We have often prayed for him and his son to be reconciled together but there has been no movement in that direction after all of these years. This morning he sat on the couch in my office discouraged and ready to abandon all efforts to continue. He told me of an encounter recently when he saw his son with his five daughters and he went to say hi to them. His son did not acknowledge his dad and turned and walked away. How would you encourage this dad?
A few hours later I was again sitting in my office with another man who would in a few hours sit down with a young husband who was angry and frustrated with his wife. In that moment he did not respond in a godly way. Rather, in his anger he told his wife that he did not love her and that he thought that he had probably made a mistake in getting married. These words, as you can imagine, have broken her heart and caused great pain. Again, how would you counsel the husband?
This week, we are looking at the fact that a disciple of Christ is called to help each family unit be a love and truth center. The two example that I just shared above are not the exception; they are the norm for so many of us in some way. Relationships are difficult. Often we respond poorly when it really mattered. As a result, feelings are hurt, promises are broken, damage is done.
We see the great need to help to make each family unit be a love and truth center; but is it too late? Will people believe it is possible to restore and recover what God intended for these relationships? Will they listen to a disciple who comes in love with their bibles open saying, “God loves you and wants to speak the truth to you that can help in this very situation?”
Building relationships is so difficult that people are often leaving relationships, neighborhoods, and churches all the time when conflict arises. I think that we all understand that building homes, relationships and church communities is very difficult. They are often very messy. They try our patience. They make us throw up our hands and say, “I quit”.
Ten years ago Mindy and I built the house that we are currently living in. I still remember the day that we finally found a house plan that we both liked. That was a big hurdle for us. I may have liked the two-story house plans but she would like the ranch style house. I will admit that there were days when I wondered if we would ever agree on a house plan that we both would like. When we finally found that house plan I was so excited. Then I realized that we still had to pick out all of the hundred other little details that go into building a house.
When we built the house I would often tell my wife that I only want to be in charge of two things where our house was concerned. Then I would tell her that I only wanted to be in charge of everything inside and on the outside of the house. In other words, since deciding all of these things seemed so difficult I only wanted to be in charge of the two things that would include every decision that needed to be made. Now, that is not how we built this house. We made these decisions together and most of the time it worked out quite nicely. In fact, I will admit to you that Mindy has done so much more to make this house a home than I could ever have done. And I really would not want it any other way.
If building a home is difficult then I would think that building families and communities can be even more difficult. Yet, we are called to build our families and churches into love and truth centers. As we have seen, not only are healthy families a challenge to build; but often times we see that because of our sinful nature we can make them self-destruct. Consider Proverbs 14:1, “The wisest of women builds her house; but folly with her own hands tears it down.”
Have you ever seen a home that was built wisely? Have you seen a family that operated in truth and love? Have you ever been to a church and seen believers live together in a healthy and wise manner? These families and churches may be rare today but they do exist. One of the reasons I moved up here to Wisconsin was to be by my in-laws who could model for me what a godly and healthy family would look like.
Some years ago our family left a church and at that time I wondered if there was even one church that would be safe, healthy and biblical. I was very pessimistic about churches at the time and I really thought that it would take over a year to find a church if one even existed. It was in that season of my life that God showed me that there are many healthy churches with faithful ministers who truly want to honor the LORD. In fact, within two weeks we found the church that we would attend and feel at home. Now, no family is perfect and no church is flawless; but the wisest of them builds the house. The wisest always seeks to build up and never to tear down.