Homily for Ben and Rachel's Wedding

Ben and Rachel, let me thank you for the honor of being part of this special day. We are so thrilled to to have seen God’s grace at work in your lives which has led to this special moment.

Rachel, on one of the first occasions that we met in my office to discuss your marriage, you admitted that the reality of this may have surprised your parents. One moment you were their only daughter who was living at home and attending college, but then one day they discovered that you were going to be getting married to Ben and everything was about to change.

A parent tries to prepare for these moments but when they come the reality hits you in a profound and in a surprising way.

As fathers we may be surprised by these things but our heavenly Father is not surprised. It is the LORD who brings a man and a woman together in marriage. Marriage has been created by the LORD to provide the solution to a great need that we have. The Lord spoke of this need when He said to our first parents in the garden of Eden, “It is not good that man should be alone”. Therefore He said, “I will make him a helper fit for him.” (Genesis 2:18)

Ben and Rachel, when you decided to get married you wanted it to be a Christian wedding. You decided to have your wedding in a church, with a minister and you wanted to enter into this covenant together before all of these witnesses. You have sought God’s blessing upon this union at every stage of your relationship. In all of this you have shown that you know that God has brought the two of you together. You know that it is the sovereign and providential work of God that has done this. Like the wedding in Cana where Jesus performed His first miracle you have invited Christ to be here today!

You know of Proverbs 19:14 which says, “House and wealth are inherited, but a prudent wife is from the LORD.” You know that Proverbs 18:22 says, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the LORD”.

Our heavenly Father is not surprised that we are standing here this day. He has always seen this day coming. He has ordained this moment, He has providentially brought you two together, and He will continue to be present with you in your marriage from this moment on.

The LORD has instituted and regulated the covenant of marriage that you are about to enter into with each other. We learn in Malachi 2:15 that the LORD is here right now to give you His Holy Spirit in a special way so that you ‘will now become one flesh’. This bond by His Spirit is never to be broken by any person. (Genesis 2:24/Mark 10:8).

Ben and Rachel stand before us today to make this covenant together. They are making this covenant with full understanding of what they are committing too to the other person. Both of them have acknowledged the hard work that is demanded in committing exclusively to love and be loyal to each other for a lifetime. They understand that such a covenant will flourish as the grace of God bears fruit in every area of their lives.

This is one of the reasons that you chose Ephesians 3:20-21 as a scripture that should be read here today. “Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us, to Him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen.

Ben and Rachel, you are entering into this covenant that is based upon Christ and the Gospel. The grace of God redeems sinners, grants Christ’s righteousness freely, restores us to God in holiness, sanctifies us, reconciles us to others and provides rich and fruitful relationships.

Because of this hope that you have in Christ, faith and love spring fourth from each of you towards each other.